Here’s the thing about birth plans. You can have one, and then everything can (and likely will) go as it wants to go without a whole lot of regard for how you had planned. My thoughts are – why set myself up for failure by having this rigid birth plan that baby might not agree with at all? I hear way too often about new mothers who feel disappointed with the ways things go. I want to accept everything that happens and move forward, and just have a safe birth for me and baby.
So I have some preferences. But in truth, I just want to deliver a healthy baby with whatever drugs it may or may not take to help me get through it. Here’s those preferences:
I’m 100% supportive of getting an epidural. I’m open to the idea that maybe things will go so swimmingly that I don’t even get to ask for one, but that’s unlikely to be my reality. I’m pain-sensitive and I have an anxiety disorder, and the epidural is something that I’m totally okay with. As a result, I know I’m opening myself up to having to use Pitocin to speed things along, and I’m okay with that too. I’d love to progress as long as possible before getting the epidural, but I know that I may not cope well with that. I’m okay with any pain medication.
I don’t want one. I’m not going to schedule an elective C-section. But if it’s deemed medically necessary for me or the baby, I’ll get one and I’ll be okay with it. Whatever is required to make sure that me and the baby are safe, I’m down with. I’d prefer to be conscious for it, and I’d love to still hold him immediately after.
Still figuring this one out. Right now, I’m leaning toward not having one because of the risks of tearing worse. But if his head is just not coming out and doctor sees that it’s necessarily, have at it. At this point, I’m resigned to knowing that I’ll tear at least a little bit, but maybe I’ll be lucky and just have internal tears rather than really bad external ones. We’ll see….
Delayed cord clamping:
Kind of a no-brainer here. I’m doing it, there’s not really much risk and the benefits are strong.
Cord blood banking:
None. I looked up the benefits and it seems as if it will be very unlikely that he’d ever use this, and it’s a capitalism-driven industry that’s very expensive and not really doctor recommended. I will however donate it to the hospital.
Skin to skin:
Absolutely, this is something I very much desire.
Doctor can do it. Luke has no interest in that, so that’s fine.
I don’t think I’ll be doing a doula, but if I find a private one I really like in the next few months I might do it.
Sure, why not. Though I really don’t care about pooping during delivery. Shit happens.
Leaning toward no.
Guests in the room:
Only my husband, until after baby’s born. Then I am cool with visitors, though it will probably just be one visitor (my best friend).
Other random things:
I do not want a mirror down there. I do want a birth ball available until I get the epidural. I don’t want to reach my hand down and feel his head as he’s crowning. I want to be directed when I should push. I don’t care to see the placenta, nor do I want to eat it within a capsule.
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